Many people are dissatisfied with their lives. They realize that things need to change but they often do not know what to do. Follow these six tips to get started making your life better than it has ever been.Get rid of the clutter.As the years pass by we tend to accumulate items that we no longer need. These may be items that were given to us as gifts or things we thought we needed but have only used once or twice and no longer use. They are just taking up space and perhaps even getting in your way every day.Get rid of them. Clear them out. Plan on the time to pull them out of the closet or the garage or attic and go through them. Keep only what you need for your immediate use, such as today or next week. If you will not need or use them in a couple weeks, set them aside and create a pile of items you will give away to others or sell.
First of all we have to have some kind of understanding why it works and second, if you try it, maybe you'll find why it's not such and easy thing to do. Just sit on a chair, upright, and count each breath. How many breaths can you count before you get distracted and forget to count? Do you forget how many breaths you've counted? Just try it. So, like learning to do a lot of things it's difficult at first. Our minds just want to get out there and do stuff. So how does training our attention to follow the breath do so much good?
Go through your garage as well and consider what to keep and what to get rid of. Just knowing what you have in there will give you a better feeling, but move everything to one side and give the floor a good sweep, yes, even way back in that corner you haven't seen in more than a year. Clean it out, give yourself some open space - it will look better and you will feel better.Do you have items of furniture that you really don't care for now? They looked great last year or five years ago but now, not so great. Is it time to make a change? Does that couch cushion still feel good when you sit on it? Are the arms or legs becoming scuffed and tattered? What about that one chair or small table that just seems to always be in the way? Might it be time to give it the old heave-ho?
What happens when you stand in the queue waiting to be served? What happens when you're waiting for a bus? Well, for most of us, we get bored or frustrated and our mind goes for a walk. We start daydreaming, planning or worrying. We're distracted. The thing is, what's going on in our minds has an impact on our moods and then our mood effects our thinking. We create patterns of mood and habits of thinking which feed on each other. So often this causes us completely unnecessary stress.
Researchers have found that mindfulness has a number of effects on the brain. When we focus our attention on anything, this tends to reduce the amount of thinking going on. Then the mind and the body calm a little and we get the opportunity to begin to see our patterns of thinking and feeling. After a little practice we begin to be able to uncouple our thinking from feeding back onto the way we feel. This happens as we get into the habit of paying more attention to what's going on for us in the present moment. We begin to feel things more. We're more aware of what's actually going on for us. We're better able to take a step back from situations rather than get carried away by our habits of thought. This help us to be less reactive and take things more lightly. We're able to let go of unhelpful thinking and behavior and follow a more useful course of action.
This can have a profound effect on all kinds of different areas of our life because so many of our problems result from the way we get trapped in patterns of thinking and behavior. Developing a regular practice of mindfulness exercises helps us to see the patterns that drive us more clearly and enables us to pay more attention to what is actually going on for us. This makes changing things much easier. We're not using our will power to change the way we behave; with mindfulness we can discover what it is we really want to do and do it naturally. Mindfulness exercises help us to really get to know ourselves better, as if we were an old friend and that makes it much easier to do what's in our own best interests without being self critical.Most people nowadays are always in a depressed state of mind due to the pressures of life. Doctors and counselors constantly advise you to think positively in order to set back depression. However, it is tougher to do than to say.Studies show that people who accept defeat sportingly are the happier type of people and they have an optimistic attitude towards life.
Although you may not want to, make a list of the bad things that have happened in your life too. Consider what caused those things to happen and how you can avoid that happening again.In this hurried world many people do not get enough sleep. Our jobs may require more and more of our time, traffic prevents us from getting home in a timely manner, people make small demands on your time which add up to several hours, children act up and take up more of your time (but you should be thankful for your children - they are blessings!), there are many causes for why we do not 'hit the sack' when we know we should.And when we awake we are not rested. We may have been thinking and dreaming about problems at work or in our personal lives, some may suffer sleep apnea, while outside sources such as loud parties next door or noisy neighbors or the couple in the next apartment who screamed at each other all night may have interrupted our sleep several times through the night.
The outlook and approach towards a task should be from a positive point. The thought in your head must enlighten the positive aspects instead of the negative, discouraging thoughts. Once you change your attitude from a pessimist to an optimist, you will find feel all the good vibes.All good things will surround you and give you more energy to move forward in times of depression.Nevertheless, how do you suddenly change from being a pessimist to an optimist? Well, it is not a matter of sudden change or changing your thinking process within a day. It all depends on time, your practice and willingness. You have to learn to identify your inner voice. This is the first step to make the changes.Some people perform an act suddenly without thinking for a second time. They do not think what they really want to do or not. Therefore, first you have to learn to identify your inner voice.After that, always speak in a positive manner. For instance, if you are asking yourself a question, then instead of asking,"Am I not capable of doing this work?" ask, "Am I capable of doing this work?" It reflects a positive attitude. You can find several such examples in your daily life if you put a little attention to what you do.
First of all we have to have some kind of understanding why it works and second, if you try it, maybe you'll find why it's not such and easy thing to do. Just sit on a chair, upright, and count each breath. How many breaths can you count before you get distracted and forget to count? Do you forget how many breaths you've counted? Just try it. So, like learning to do a lot of things it's difficult at first. Our minds just want to get out there and do stuff. So how does training our attention to follow the breath do so much good?
Go through your garage as well and consider what to keep and what to get rid of. Just knowing what you have in there will give you a better feeling, but move everything to one side and give the floor a good sweep, yes, even way back in that corner you haven't seen in more than a year. Clean it out, give yourself some open space - it will look better and you will feel better.Do you have items of furniture that you really don't care for now? They looked great last year or five years ago but now, not so great. Is it time to make a change? Does that couch cushion still feel good when you sit on it? Are the arms or legs becoming scuffed and tattered? What about that one chair or small table that just seems to always be in the way? Might it be time to give it the old heave-ho?
What happens when you stand in the queue waiting to be served? What happens when you're waiting for a bus? Well, for most of us, we get bored or frustrated and our mind goes for a walk. We start daydreaming, planning or worrying. We're distracted. The thing is, what's going on in our minds has an impact on our moods and then our mood effects our thinking. We create patterns of mood and habits of thinking which feed on each other. So often this causes us completely unnecessary stress.
Researchers have found that mindfulness has a number of effects on the brain. When we focus our attention on anything, this tends to reduce the amount of thinking going on. Then the mind and the body calm a little and we get the opportunity to begin to see our patterns of thinking and feeling. After a little practice we begin to be able to uncouple our thinking from feeding back onto the way we feel. This happens as we get into the habit of paying more attention to what's going on for us in the present moment. We begin to feel things more. We're more aware of what's actually going on for us. We're better able to take a step back from situations rather than get carried away by our habits of thought. This help us to be less reactive and take things more lightly. We're able to let go of unhelpful thinking and behavior and follow a more useful course of action.
This can have a profound effect on all kinds of different areas of our life because so many of our problems result from the way we get trapped in patterns of thinking and behavior. Developing a regular practice of mindfulness exercises helps us to see the patterns that drive us more clearly and enables us to pay more attention to what is actually going on for us. This makes changing things much easier. We're not using our will power to change the way we behave; with mindfulness we can discover what it is we really want to do and do it naturally. Mindfulness exercises help us to really get to know ourselves better, as if we were an old friend and that makes it much easier to do what's in our own best interests without being self critical.Most people nowadays are always in a depressed state of mind due to the pressures of life. Doctors and counselors constantly advise you to think positively in order to set back depression. However, it is tougher to do than to say.Studies show that people who accept defeat sportingly are the happier type of people and they have an optimistic attitude towards life.
Although you may not want to, make a list of the bad things that have happened in your life too. Consider what caused those things to happen and how you can avoid that happening again.In this hurried world many people do not get enough sleep. Our jobs may require more and more of our time, traffic prevents us from getting home in a timely manner, people make small demands on your time which add up to several hours, children act up and take up more of your time (but you should be thankful for your children - they are blessings!), there are many causes for why we do not 'hit the sack' when we know we should.And when we awake we are not rested. We may have been thinking and dreaming about problems at work or in our personal lives, some may suffer sleep apnea, while outside sources such as loud parties next door or noisy neighbors or the couple in the next apartment who screamed at each other all night may have interrupted our sleep several times through the night.
The outlook and approach towards a task should be from a positive point. The thought in your head must enlighten the positive aspects instead of the negative, discouraging thoughts. Once you change your attitude from a pessimist to an optimist, you will find feel all the good vibes.All good things will surround you and give you more energy to move forward in times of depression.Nevertheless, how do you suddenly change from being a pessimist to an optimist? Well, it is not a matter of sudden change or changing your thinking process within a day. It all depends on time, your practice and willingness. You have to learn to identify your inner voice. This is the first step to make the changes.Some people perform an act suddenly without thinking for a second time. They do not think what they really want to do or not. Therefore, first you have to learn to identify your inner voice.After that, always speak in a positive manner. For instance, if you are asking yourself a question, then instead of asking,"Am I not capable of doing this work?" ask, "Am I capable of doing this work?" It reflects a positive attitude. You can find several such examples in your daily life if you put a little attention to what you do.
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