Building Self Esteem: 5 Essential Ways To Direct Your Thoughts Toward Success

By Harbin Garreau

Self esteem and confidence are two traits that every athlete must possess in order to remain competitive and consistent on the field. Low self esteem and low self-confidence can make an athlete nervous, anxious, and/or depressed about his game. Encouragement, praising performance, and rewarding athletic achievements can boost an athlete's self esteem and confidence, not only on the field, but also in life.To encourage a young athlete, parents and coaches should use both verbal and non-verbal forms of communication. Encouragement can come in the form of a spirited locker-room pep talk or a simple handshake and smile. Stern facial expressions and harsh language from the sidelines can make an athlete nervous and fearful of making a mistake. When an athlete is forced to focus entirely on his own performance, he or she can fail to pay attention to the game and the other athletes around them. When this occurs, an athlete may find that the more they're discouraged, the more they hesitate, leading to even more discouragement, and more hesitation.

To make your mind more fluid, you need to expose it periodically to new ideas and experiences. And one way to accomplish this is to reinvent your self image and how you see yourself. Try out different roles. Dare to think different thoughts. And things will change for you and you will become more confident,creative and successful as a result.Every big or small accomplishment starts first as a thought.A small seed can give birth to a tree that will eventually grow to hundreds of feet in height. The same principle applies to your thoughts. A tiny thought can be the starting point of a revolution of a big result in your life. Don't discount your thoughts. They can help you do magic. Monitor your thoughts and align your thoughts to what you want to achieve in life and the actions you take to achieve your goals.

Thoughts are not enough by themselves. It's not enough to think right. You could sit in a corner and think all the thoughts you want and still not make any change to your condition. You also need to do the required steps. And this takes work, planning, strategy, thinking, action and developing skills. Thinking right is great but it's not enough by itself. You also need to act.There's proof that good health can be influenced by your thoughts.Scientists have discovered how belief works at the physical level. Basically, beliefs can change your cells and even switch off or on your genes. This means that you can become someone else mentally and physically through changing your thought patterns. Also, in the past few years, scientists have discovered through the use of REMs how the thoughts that people have on a daily basis rewires the brain at a physical level.

Five Easy Steps To Build Self Esteem.Ask the Elderly to help make decisions about their day-to-day living as much as possible. So instead of making choices for them, ask how the aged how they would like to be assisted.Give them a small tasks that they are able to complete. Even something as basic as folding the face washers or the towels make the Elder feel important. Ask the aged person what they used to like doing. Did they like gardening? Or painting? Or maybe sewing. Set up activities that the person is able to take part in and enjoy. You will soon see their Self Esteem boosted.Show the person you care about their thoughts, opinions and their history. Get involved in their earlier life and share their memories. If they have photos of their life then ask if you can sit and look through the photos together.Use the Elderly person name every time you speak with them in a conversation. Try to remember that person name so that they can feel important and loved.

These are generally father and son activities, but many of them can work equally well with daughters and mothers participating.This article will show you how to create and enjoy activities which help in building self esteem in children.How to plan to spend time with your children,How to choose and plan an activity to do together,Doing the chosen activity together,Joining a community,Letting the children fly.Holidays are perfect for spending time with the children. Often though, you have to plan to make this time. This is your choice. You and you alone are the one who controls your time. Time is not something you can save or bank for a later day. Time is your life, now! I'm extremely lucky as I work from home. Therefore, I can plan my own time. I sleep for 8 hours, work for 8 hours and that gives me 8 hours to play. I'm able to plan to spend 2 to 3 hours on each day of the holidays on activities aimed at building confidence in children. This is the first step; you must make the choice how much time you will spend with the children on the activity.

So what can you do together? Well that of course depends on the age of the child. It could be sand castle building or vegetable plot creation. Make a list of different things you could do together. See what will attract your children. I find it great fun, to surf the internet together, to seek out activities on your list and see how the children respond. The children love this responsibility and it is a good start in building self esteem in children. If they do not get excited, then never mind, move onto the next activity on your list. I've been surprised at what ages the children pick up different activities and let go of others. Our two boys were still playing with their Brio wooden train set long after we had built a WWII battlefield complete with Hornby trains and airfix models.

How would you like a sure fire tip for increasing your self esteem? Everyone needs a boost sometimes, but there are things you can do on a regular basis to lift yourself up, and stay in a positive mind set.In "The 7 Habits for Highly Effective Teens", Sean Covey refers to our self esteem as our "Personal Bank Account". As with a traditional bank account, we make withdrawals and deposits daily. As with a traditional money account, we like for the deposits to exceed the withdrawals. He suggests things such as using your talents, being honest with yourself, doing small acts of kindness, and in general, taking good care of yourself physically as well as emotionally. One of the most helpful pieces, however, is the advice to keep promises you make to yourself.

Let the action begin. Remember this is not a competition! The aim of the activity is to promote building self esteem in children. You want them to enjoy the activity. The more they enjoy the activity, the more they will practice. The more they practice the more they will shine. Once they excel then they really start to build high self esteem. You want to encourage them along the way. It is their effort to master the activity which must be praised, not the level they achieve. This is a hugely important point - it is the effort that is praised. This will program them that it is the effort that counts.If success comes early so be it, but the children will be programmed to keep at it until they succeed. Children truly appreciate it when parents and carers recognise their efforts rather than their results. As my 13 year old son said this week, "I'm really proud of my efforts to succeed at windsurfing. It takes a lot of practice and effort. Football is so easy; you just have to kick a ball!"

I've observed many times someone saying to themselves that they are going to start exercising and eating right, only to continue right on eating the same way and not attempt any physical movement. They are then discouraged and complain that they can't lose weight. You have seen this too. I have worked with students who say they are going to make better grades, study and do their homework. They do not follow through, do not improve their grades and then say they just can't do well in school. You have to put action behind your words or they don't mean anything.

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