I
seem to lost count on how many times I've read and heard of celebrity marriages
failing almost left and right. Not that I care (and personally I don't), it
seems strange that we often see movie and TV stars as flawless people, living
the fairytale life of riches and glamour. I suppose we all have to stop
sticking our heads in the clouds and face reality.
There
are many ways to lose your sense of self-esteem despite of how trivial it could
get. But whatever happens, we should all try not to lose our own sense of self.
So
what does it take to be a cut above the rest? Here are some of the things
you can think and improve on that should be enough for a week.
1. Know your purpose
Are
you wandering through life with little direction - hoping that you'll find
happiness, health and prosperity? Identify your life purpose or mission
statement and you will have your own unique compass that will lead you to your
truth north every time.
This
may seem tricky at first when you see yourself to be in a tight or even dead
end. But there's always that little loophole to turn things around and you can
make a big difference to yourself.
2. Know your values
What
do you value most? Make a list of your top 5 values. Some examples are
security, freedom, family, spiritual development, learning. As you set your
goals for 2005 - check your goals against your values. If the goal doesn't
align with any of your top five values - you may want to reconsider it or
revise it.
The
number shouldn't discourage you, instead it should motivate you to do more than
you can ever dreamed of.
3. Know your needs
Unmet
needs can keep you from living authentically. Take care of yourself. Do you
have a need to be acknowledged, to be right, to be in control, to be loved?
There are so many people who lived their lives without realizing their dreams
and most of them end up being stressed or even depressed for that matter. List
your top four needs and get them met before it's too late!
4. Know your passions
You
know who you are and what you truly enjoy in life. Obstacles like doubt and
lack of enthusiasm will only hinder you, but will not derail your chance to
become the person you ought to be. Express yourself and honor the people who
has inspired you to become the very person you wanted to be.
5. Live from the inside out
Increase
your awareness of your inner wisdom by regularly reflecting in silence. Commune
with nature. Breathe deeply to quiet your distracted mind. For most of us city
slickers it's hard to even find the peace and quiet we want even in our own
home. In my case I often just sit in a dimly lit room and play some classical
music. There's sound, yes, but music does soothe the savage beast.
6. Honor your strengths
What
are your positive traits? What special talents do you have? List three - if you
get stuck, ask those closest to you to help identify these. Are you
imaginative, witty, good with your hands? Find ways to express your authentic
self through your strengths. You can increase your self-confidence when you can
share what you know to others.
7. Serve others
When
you live authentically, you may find that you develop an interconnected sense
of being. When you are true to who you are, living your purpose and giving of
your talents to the world around you, you give back in service what you came to
share with others -your spirit - your essence. The rewards for sharing your
gift with those close to you is indeed rewarding, much more if it were to be
the eyes of a stranger who can appreciate what you have done to them.
Self-improvement
is indeed one type of work that is worth it. It shouldn't always be within the
confines of an office building, or maybe in the four corners of your own room.
The difference lies within ourselves and how much we want to change for the
better.
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