Will You Ever Find Love Again After Breaking Up With Her

By Shon L. Phu

There is one thing that runs through your mind when you have to deal with breaking up with your girlfriend, even if you don't want to admit to it. That thing is, you wonder if you are going to be able to ever find love again. That is a pretty universal fear and it is one that guys just don't talk about with other guys. Yet, if you don't acknowledge that you have that fear, it can severely limit what happens down the road. It can make you jump into a new relationship with the wrong woman a little bit too quickly and it can also make you feel like going back to an old girlfriend, all because you are afraid that you won't be able to find love again.

This is because of the amazing way our brain or more importantly our subconscious works. Our subconscious mind can not tell the difference between reality and perception, true life or make believe. Basically, what we focus on or ask ourselves manifests in our life because of this process. For example, have you ever driven yourself crazy trying to remember something that you knew you knew, given up on it and then woke with a jolt at 2 in the morning with the answer? This is because your subconscious never gave up and kept "going through your brains files" until it found the answer!

The same goes with negative questions. If you ask yourself questions like "Why can't I find love?" or "Why am I single?" your subconscious mind will again go and find the answers for you. These are not nice answers either! Things such as "You sabotage relationships.", "You're too fat!", "You can't commit." and so on... Your brain MUST come up with an answer for you.Not pleasant but that's how it works. You then keep going through the same patterns time after time, potential relationship after potential relationship.

What hampers most guys is, they just aren't that good at rebounding. Most men who feel like they have lost the only woman that they could ever love either stay in a place where they are constantly thinking about their ex girlfriend or they end running for the first woman that they can find and that usually doesn't work out so well. Instead, what YOU want to do is to find out how to identify exactly what it is that you are looking for and how to make a woman feel massive attraction for you. If you do that, not only will you be able to get over the feeling of having lost the only woman you could ever love, you will be able to find someone new and someone better for you.So many people ask this question that I wanted to talk about it. Many of my friends and clients have been single for what seems like an eternity.

Let's take Joan as an example. She is a beautiful woman with a daughter. She has patiently waited for her daughter to reach her mid-teen years before pursuing a love relationship for herself. For 10 years, Joan has been steadily working on herself to let go of old pain and release old behaviors that attracted more problem relationships. She has a great job and owns a home. She has been cleaning house emotionally, mentally, financially and spiritually.

At other times we can lose this ability to love due to fears about what the future may bring or a painful past. Additionally, no matter how much someone may at one time love you, if you cannot fully love them back, the relationship is doomed. In these cases people often find themselves in difficult and emotionally draining situations or find the whole process too hard and simply give up on relationships.If this has previously been you or you notice some similar behaviors, it doesn't always have to be this way.What you need to do is start to change the world by filling your own life with the kind of love other people find intoxicating, attractive and irresistible. If you are open and honest with others, you will find that you start connecting with people in ways you may previously have thought impossible. Living your life in this way will show you love that you once thought only existed in fairy tales!

"Take time to savor the triumph and to harvest the gifts of wisdom you receive. Search within yourself to find the qualities of soul that have been strengthened through your experience. These qualities may include humility, devotion, determination, or depth. Bask in gratitude and open your heart to let yourself be saturated with liberating love. You may feel as if you are leaving behind deadness and stepping into life. What part of you has come to life?"The angels of Liberation stand beside you every moment, waiting to take your hands and pull you into unconditional love. Take an action that represents reaching out to these angels."

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